Some people spend their lives focusing on mental wellness. They meditate, journal, go to therapy, read self-help books, practice active listening, understand how to identify and process their emotions, and have a breadth of coping skills. In the face of a crisis, they are as prepared as they can be to handle the toughest mental challenge of their lives.
Read MoreI started to think about restructuring my emotional boundaries. About being honest with myself about the work I’ve done and the work that needs to be done. I imagined myself as a little girl, first learning about her emotions, how others actions impact her feelings, and how she impacts other people’s emotions. What would I teach her so that she understood where the boundary lay? What lessons would I hope she learned?
Read MoreI started googling, “who created the concept of boundaries” and “what therapy first talked about boundaries” and “where did the idea of boundaries come from in psychology?” I saw dozens of articles like “10 Ways to Effectively Set Boundaries” or “What to do When Your Boundaries Aren’t Respected” and “5 Different Types of Boundaries to Set” and I was overwhelmed.
Read MoreI don’t know about you, but when I’m depressed, cooking breakfast is a chore, and showering is a marathon. P.L.E.A.S.E. is handy acronym and gentle checklist that is only asking you to do those bare minimum things daily, with the hopes of keeping you at a baseline that is manageable.
Read MoreI used to live by the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have done unto you. In love, I operated under the assumption that to show my partner I loved him, I should do what I would want him to do for me. After all, that’s how you express love, right?
Wrong.
Read MoreDo you ever get lonely? I do. Like all the time. As in right now, and earlier today, and yesterday. I get lonely a lot. I often wonder what loneliness is. I know it’s a feeling, or maybe a state of being. But what is loneliness, and how do I get rid of it?
Read MoreOne of the first steps in dealing with Anxiety is understanding and identifying our unhelpful thinking patterns. Many of us, without realizing it, have automatic thoughts in response to both stressful and non-stressful situations that influence the way we feel about the experience. Often, these thoughts are negative, and put us down an anxious path (or as I like to call it, a fuck-spiral).
Read MoreCommunication is hard. Let’s be real. It seems so simple in our heads, yet when we try and put our thoughts and feelings into words it seems to get tangled up and misconstrued by the recipient. That’s why it’s so important we establish better communication skills.
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