100 Affirmations for Self-Love
Two months ago, I had a complete nervous breakdown. Like a full on, central nervous system, emotional and physiological breakdown.
Everything startled me. Everything scared me. Mundane mistakes enraged me and I had urges to punch walls and scream at strangers. One morning, my breakfast toast had too much peanut butter, so I threw it on the ground and stomped on it.
I was not doing well.
This came just a few weeks after my divorce papers were finalized, which was followed by a very timely accident where I broke my big toe and kneecap. A month prior, I was sexually assaulted. While I had ample support from friends and a therapist, the combination and back to back timing of all these experiences gave my nervous system zero rest, and I couldn’t recalibrate.
I had been through a nervous system collapse before two years earlier, but at that time I had no idea that my rage attacks, emotional lability, hair loss, and seemingly undiagnosable digestive issues were related to my nervous system.
This time, I was able to see a naturopath who diagnosed me with a nervous system collapse, which essentially meant that the chronic stress of 2020 (thanks COVID), my divorce, sexual assault, and my ongoing symptoms of depression/anxiety/eating disorder was so intense (or, too sequential and without ample time for recovery), that my nervous system—the system designed to help us regulate stress—couldn’t keep up.
In other words, the system that connects our brains to our bodies and communicates threat and danger to our system so that we can physically respond, had broken down. This is why everything stressed me out. This is why everything set me into a fit of rage—or biologically speaking, fight mode to protect me from a perceived threat. My survival system basically left itself on, because it assumed it would not get the chance to turn off.
To cope with being on bedrest from my broken bones, I started reciting affirmations. I would go live on TikTok (I know, I know. But I was desperate) and say the affirmations there to hold myself accountable.
I found that in saying them outloud, into a camera—to myself—made me feel exponentially better.
Affirmations didn’t cure my nervous system, but they regulated my distress. Saying these affirmations outloud, looking at myself in the camera, and feeling connected to others gave me a sense of safety, hope, and purpose. Which my brain needed. My brain needed to know I was safe. My brain needed to know I could trust people. And my brain needed the actual content from the affirmations to begin rewiring the communication between my thoughts and my physical body.
Now that I am doing better, I’ve decided to create my own list of affirmations. It is my hope that these might help you the way they helped me.
My invitation to you is to recite them outloud, in the mirror. If that feels too overwhelming, start by just saying them outloud.
If you’re looking for ways to create your own unique affirmations, I suggest trying my 90 Day Guided Journal, “The Self-Healer’s Journal.”
100 Affirmations for Self-Love
I am always home
I appreciate every moment I am alive
I belong
There is nowhere I am supposed to be but right here, right now
I am grateful for everything in my life
Everything I need is already with me
How wonderful it is to breathe, to live, and to be able to experience this life
It is ok to let go of grief, it does not mean I have forgotten
I let go of what no longer serves me
I forgive myself for the mistakes I have made
I am moving forward and onward from my past
I let go of relationships that no longer serve me
It is always ok to begin again
I exude worthiness and influence others to do the same
I participate in life because I can, not because I earned that right
I am worthy of all that I desire
I don’t have to prove myself to people who truly love me
I am a good partner
I am open to receiving love
I listen to and respect other's needs
I appreciate each person who comes into my life
I am deserving of love
Love is me and I am love
I am capable of giving love
Relationships take work and I am committed to loving effort in my partnerships
I have all the love I could ever need right here, right now
I deserve love
I get to choose what love means for me and how I define it
I never have to prove myself
I do not need to do anything to be enough
My worth is based on my existence
I take care of my body as if it were the most important thing in my life
I love and respect my body
My body is my home and I care for it as such
I treat my body like a temple
I protect my body because honor my body
My body is special, and I respect her needs and listen to her whispers
I allow myself to feel pleasure, delight, and sensory experiences
I connect with my body with intentionality, curiosity, and love
I deserve joy, play, and pleasure
I am always good enough
I learn something valuable from every experience I have
I grow and learn with ease
I am capable of anything I set my mind to
It is ok not to have everything figured out
I am grateful to discover how capable I am in moments of uncertainty
I am capable of creating the world I want for myself
I can overcome any obstacle
I can create something out of nothing
Sometimes, what I set out to do is simply a doorway for the better thing that’s to come
It is easy for me to bring all that I desire into my life
I believe in my ability to create something out of nothing
I figure things out as I go
I solve problems with wisdom and creativity
My power to create the life I want is infinite
I learn and adapt with grace
I am allowed sexual boundaries and I am allowed to say no
I love how well I set boundaries
I trust my intuition and honor my limitations
It is ok to change my mind
Communicating my needs and desires is an act of love for me and the other
Nobody gets to decide what my boundaries are except for me
I am allowed to say “no”
Only those who respect me as much as I do are given the luxury of knowing me
I love when others set boundaries with me so that I know how to show them I respect them
My sexuality is not up for debate
My limits are not my limitations: they are how I keep myself safe
My energy is worthy of preservation and recharge
The projects I believe in will come to fruition
When I set goals for myself, I am always successful
People can trust me to make things happen
I do not need anybody’s approval to go after what I want
I have success in my work and professional endeavors
People want to hire me because of who I am
When I make an impact in a way that feels meaningful, I am successful
Money comes easily to me
I am a badass human being
I attract wealth and prosperity
When I commit to my passions, I am rewarded
What happened to me in the past does not have to stay with me forever
While past trauma may have left an imprint, I can choose to use that imprint as a map for others who come after me
I am not what happened to me
My past and the lessons I’ve learned give me the power to be a teacher and help others
All that I could need is at my fingertips
I am joy, I am ease, I am rest
I am one of the stars and the stars are one of me
I am pure magic
My life is a canvas, and I am an active participant in painting every detail
I am allowed deep rest
I am the maker of my life
I am one with the universe
What I visualize is what I materialize
I’m a miracle worker
I am manifesting peace, joy, and ease
I am supposed to be here
The universe made me on purpose
I am connected to everyone and everything I meet
I can picture everything I desire, and soon it will be mine
I create magic
I am.
Love these affirmations? Send them to a friend, or tag me on instagram @rachel_havekost if you use them!
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