If you’re anything like me, you often find yourself feeling stuck, setback, or like you keep repeating the same cycle over and over and over.

I want to share a secret with you that I learned this year (my 18th year in therapy):

You are never starting over. You cannot be stuck. Don’t believe me?

Here’s Why:

We feel stuck in life when we are at the precipice of great change, and we are about to take the leap from all that we’ve ever known into the great unknown.

This leap takes faith, and sometimes it feels safer to stay put.

The stuckness you feel does not mean you are stuck.

The stuckness you feel is the resistance between your old self clinging on for dear life, and your new self that is dying to come out.

you are not stuck.

you are simply in transition from one phase of healing to the next.

You are on THE SPIRAL OF BECOMING.

Healing is a cyclical spiral of SHEDDING old patterns, limiting beliefs, & programming, PLANTING new seeds, patterns, & self-knowing, GROWING and rooting into yourself, and expanding your gifts to your community.

I have felt "stuck" "setback" and like I'm literally "spiraling out" SO many times in my healing journey.

It wasn't until recently that I started to conceptualize healing/growth as a spiral--not unlike ones we so often see surrounding us in nature.

I think of it like this:

>We start at a central point, where we feel unsatisfied, stuck, unhappy, or in need of change.

>From this point, we take one step outward, and begin to shed and unlearn what we have believed to be true. These might be limiting beliefs, self-perceptions, or how we understand the world at large.

>Once we've shed, we begin a process of planting. We plant new seeds in the soil, gain new skills, new habits, new ways of being in the world and how we identify.

>After we plant, we grow. We integrate this newness into our lives, or with a life that makes more sense, and we re-connect to a life that makes sense as we continue to expand.

The PROBLEM is not that we are stuck.

The PROBLEM is we have no idea how to identify where on the spiral we are, so we try to implement the wrong tools at the wrong time, and something just isn’t clicking.
(enter nailing a square peg into a round hole metaphor.)

The SOLUTION:
Identify which phase of becoming we are in, then implement the appropriate tools, plan, and pace from which to transition smoothly into the next and finally feel unstuck.

INTRODUCING: My 1:1 Spiral Up Consultation.

75 Minutes of Collaborative discovery to pinpoint exactly what phase of healing you are in and determine your unique path to becoming.

Together, we will discover which phase of becoming you are in:

SHEDDING

A state of grief, letting go, unlearning, and removing all that is not presently serving you.

PLANTING

A state of learning, absorbing, curiosity, and “going to see” what new ways of being and thinking will serve you.

GROWING

A state of teaching, sharing, passing on, integrating, and offering wisdom, inspiration, or simply re-connecting with living.

“Generativity is a concern for establishing and guiding the next generation.” -Erik Erikson, developmental psychologist.

The above word resonates with me because I’m currently in the GROWTH phase of my spiral, meaning I’ve just exited the phase of planting and learning after a season of deep shedding and unlearning.

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned this past circle around the spiral is that healing, wellness, and all things mental health are sadly part of a “pain-to-profit” model in western society. Our systems keep valuable information about our own bodies from us—because if we were all healthy, happy, and stable, where would a huge source of economic gain come from?

This was a complicated awakening for me.

How do I get all this information to people for free, and still make a living? If I don’t believe anybody should have to pay for their health, how can I stay in integrity with what I do and still feed myself?

What I’ve also learned is that I can’t change an entire system overnight, nor can I do it alone. I can do what I can, where I can, and hope that by sharing as much wisdom, tools, and support, the ripple effect will take place.

What I decided to do?

Offer one time consultations to give you all the wisdom you need to heal on your own.

It is a privilege to have had so many teachers in my life.

I’ve been in therapy for 18 years, studied western psychology in graduate school, sat with plant medicine, temezcal, and silent ashrams to learn how healing practices occur in other parts of the world, and engaged in quantum healing, reiki healing, and neuro-emotional processing to build the bridge between body, spirit, and mind.

Essentially, you will have access to what I’ve learned in the last 18 years distilled into one session so that you can create your own path to wellness over and over and over.

My hope is to empower you with the wisdom to recognize where on the spiral of becoming you are, and from there become the own master of your healing and ultimately, wellness.

It is an honor to step into this role now and pass on whatever wisdom I can to you, so that maybe one day you can do the same. 

Because this is what healing really is:

Healing the past, meeting the present, and paying it forward.

What Pretty Humans Are Saying:

No matter where you are on the spiral, I am here to help.

This consultation is designed to help you figure out where you are on the spiral so we can determine your unique action steps to the next phase and help you find forward motion again.

Whether you are…

Shedding, unlearning, and letting go of old patterns so you can meet yourself

Planting new seeds, re-discovering your authentic “you” after a breakup, deep therapeutic work or healing trauma

or

Growing and rooting into a new you, aligning with a higher purpose & ready to step up & lead with courage

…then this consultation is for you.

Pretty human, do you find yourself…

…Lost, scattered, or unclear about who you really are

…Struggling to implement the tools you’ve learned in therapy

…Finally healed from your past but clueless with what to do now (you want to keep growing but in what direction?)

…Stumped with how to find a therapist, coach, or mentor that’s right for you in this next stage of the work

…Constantly starting down one path then learning about another type of healing so you never finish

…Craving stability, structure, and guidance but unsure how to pick a path

…Longing to turn your wisdom into wealth and create purposeful change with your knowledge 

…Wanting to tell your story, inspire others, & make an impact but scared to be fully seen, or worse, misunderstood

…Imagining a life where you make thousands of people just like you feel less alone but overwhelmed with how to do it or where to start

…Literally SPIRALING OUT?

Then it’s time to find out where you are on the spiral of becoming, and BECOME.